Confidence & Self-Esteem

Fish Food 42 – I’ll give it a go


“Children with anxiety difficulties tend to lack confidence in their abilities and feel overwhelmed easily. They need to learn how to cope with worries and build confidence. Children with these difficulties benefit from parents and carers providing positive support and teaching them the emotional and thinking skills that can help them manage their worries.”

Teach children to be brave by showing them you believe they can do things and encouraging them to have a go even when they are scared or worried. You might remind them of a time when they were brave and it worked.

Help them to see that by worrying less they can do more and feel better about themselves.”


Fish Food 37 – Have faith in yourselves!


“The greatest religion is to be true to your own nature. Have faith in yourselves!”  Swami Vivekananda

Firstly, this quote reminds me of the importance of helping our children acquire a healthy dose of self-esteem and self-confidence.

Secondly, it makes me think about how we need to help our children understand and appreciate their natural talents, abilities, strengths and passions.

Thirdly, when thinking about ‘what is your true nature’ it helps to remember:

  1. You are not your worst traits
  2. You are not your history
    (“We are not free to choose our history, but we can choose the examples we take from that history” Schmid)
  3. You are not your thoughts
    (‘Our true nature is obscure by the veils of wanting, fear and delusion” Buddha)
  4. You are not what someone else tells you

I hope you all find your true nature and you live life so it flourishes.


Why you should build your child’s self-confidence before it’s too late


As a loving parent, there’s nothing you want more than to happily wave your young adult off into the world with a clear sense of identity, confidence, independence, initiative and self-worth.  In other words, a healthy dose of self-confidence and self-esteem.  You’ve done your job well and you can rest easy in their ability to deal with the world and life’s challenges.

If only it were that simple.