Anxiety & Fear

Navigating stormy weather conditions


Children today are faced with all sorts of worries and stress in their lives – it’s just a natural part of living.  Children need to learn how to handle themselves under all kinds of stressful conditions, just as a sailor needs to learn to sail in stormy weather conditions, not just when the weather is sunny and the wind is blowing exactly the way they want it.

Of course, we want to shield our children from unnecessary problems and hardships. However, we need to teach our kids that if we run away from our problems, the problems just multiply.  They don’t magically go away.  When it comes right down to it, facing our fears and problems is usually the only way to get past them.


Fish Food 55 – Thoughts are important


Our feelings and emotions are the direct result of the way we think about, or interpret events and situations.

“Most people who worry a lot or feel stressed tend to make two errors in their thinking. First, they commonly overestimate how likely it is that bad events will occur.  Secondly, they usually assume that outcomes or consequences of those events will be catastrophic and unbearable.” from the book Helping your Anxious Child

Worried thoughts can often be changed to calm thoughts by being a good detective and looking for realistic evidence to challenge your worried thoughts.

In future articles we will look at how we can teach children to identify their thoughts and challenge their worried thoughts by using questions to help find evidence that suggests the worried thought is not true.


Gratitude over Anxiety – Our Family Journey


I was flipping through ’365 Gratefuls’ this morning, a book I got for Christmas. It’s by Hailey & Andrew Bartholomew and is a collection of amazing photographs recounting Hailey’s transformation from depression to an unhindered appreciation of the world around her, combined with stories and images from many others who have encountered the effects of gratitude.  It inspires you to look at the world with new eyes, emphasising gratitude over anxiety in everyday moments.

Being grateful doesn’t come naturally to me.  I’ve come to accept that, and realise I have to work at it.  This book has inspired me to begin my own version of this project.  I’ll capture my gratefulness discoveries via photographs, artwork and writings and share them with you.


Sleep strategy for 8 year old daughter to stay in her own bed


A mother shares how she used Fishwah to help her 8 year old daughter change her behaviour to be able to sleep in her own bed all night long.


Background of the problem:

Our daughter was having difficulty staying in her own bed all night & would repeatedly come to our room to sleep in our bed. Having tried numerous strategies, our frustration levels were very high. Despite our best efforts, we tended to let her sneak into our bed as it was invariably late and we were all exhausted. We had tried returning her to her room numerous times, but her behaviour did not change.


Is your child starting school? How being separated from you can cause them anxiety


It’s that time of year when we prepare our children to return to school. For many children this will be the beginning of their primary school career. It’s such an exciting time for both parents and children. Unfortunately, despite this excitement, many children get quite emotional. This is very normal and can last days, weeks or even months. When it goes on for some time, it is often associated with anxiety. For some this anxiety is caused by being separated from their parents.


Q&A – Creating and working through exposure goals

We hope you had a chance to watch our first video Understanding Exposure Therapy, showing you how it can be used to help children overcome fears and challenges.  This second video is a Q&A session with Dr Julie Sposari, PhD/Clinical Psychologist where we ask her a number of questions based on our experience using exposure goals and the obstacles we encountered. We hope you find it useful and pick up some great tips and strategies that will help you to help your child overcome their fears and anxieties.